Random musings and activities of a 30 something mom, potential sprint triathlete, vegetarian, dog and cat owner, and a evolving urban homesteader just trying to do the right thing in life for my daughter and the world around us. If the blog seems random, it's because life is and hits us all at 100mph.
Monday, July 31, 2006

PostHeaderIcon My Religion Has a Bigger Dick than Your Religion

originally posted on myspace.com on July 31, 2006

This is what happens when we let men run the countries. We have conflicts, wars, police actions, etc. All because of testosterone posturing. Yes, folks, they have to prove to the world who is bigger.

Slap your religion behind your cause, and all of a sudden, your position is supposed to have validity, and the bombing is done because its Gods will. God hates those infidels across the border in case you didn't know.

A few random thoughts about God, war, and religion....

1) When it comes to killing in the name of your God, I especially get my panties in a wad. First of all, how do you KNOW you're right? Did God personally come down and tell you to kill those infidels across the border?

2) When God speaks to you, it's a good idea to listen.

3) When someone tells you God spoke to them though, it's a good idea to double-check. Here are a few examples:
~ David Koresh & the need to stockpile more ammunition than Ft. Bragg
~ that Utah polygamy-guy on the FBIs most wanted
~ and our current President who said God wanted him to win I always thought of God as more of a Libertarian.

I think religion is great and serves a purpose in many peoples lives. It gives purpose, direction, guidance, support, and a center they can come to when life gets crazy.

I also think it can be taken too far (and becomes a negative in life) and when it takes away a persons ability to think independently. Religion should be to enrich your life, not dictate every thought and action.

Killing in the name of religion is one of the most revolting things I can think of. Both sides pray to the same God before they go off to kill each other. In spite of the many differences among Christians, Jews, and Muslims, they share a fundamental belief in God as compassionate and just. Maybe a little less posturing and a little more compassion gets us back to where all religions think we should be.
Monday, July 24, 2006

PostHeaderIcon why wait until tomorrow?

I have a friend who 's dear to me......... and who would jump through any hoop for me. The kind of friend who's always in the background, but nevertheless is always by your side. I guess that's why I put off going to lunch and replying to emails as quickly as I should.... I knew he'd always be there for me.

Then you learn that people aren't always meant to be in your lives forever and all of a sudden everytime you said, "I'll call him tomorrow" comes rushing back and you realize that tomorrow should have been "right now" and those moments will never come back and will be a weight on me for a long time to come.

How do you even begin to apologize what you should have done? If you try to make up for lost time in only 2 or 3 weeks that you have with that person, does that make you a hypocrite, because you weren't putting forth the same effort before? Does it have the same meaning as a phone call a month ago just to see how someone is doing? I don't think so.... I think it reeks of shallowness and I'm embarrassed by it.

Friday, July 21, 2006

PostHeaderIcon A simple lesson in supply and demand

originally posted on July 27, 2006 on myspace.com

Ok, let me tell you.... somedays I have the best job (great for flexility) and some days the worst (when you shut down the plant of the world's largest poultry processor for 3 hours and it's 100% on you).

Let me explain to you, one of those days that fall between the extremes. Apparently, very few people (including my own customers) understand the huge world of agriculture (how we get bread on your table and food to Fido). As we are sitting in the middle of an apparent "drought", everyone wants to tell me the best course of action I could have taken to avoid the current shortages of certain commodities.

It is VERY imperative to understand that hindsight is 20/20 and your monday-morning-quarterbacking isn't getting your product to you any quicker. Get it???? When was the last time a monday-morning-quarterback won the superbowl? Yeah, that's what I thought.

A few customers have offered several solutions to the current supply problem, but unforunately are not grounded in reality. While I appreciate the "help", your quarterbacking and advice does not make it happen. If NO product is available, then how do you suggest I pull more supply out of my *ahem* ear???

Also, offering me more money for a product I do not have, and frankly may not be in existence (think : drought), also does not increase supply or your chances of having more product by next Wednesday. If you're pissed, sorry. I've kissed your ass, offered you substitutes (when applicable), but if it is the lowest supply we've seen in 17 years, then take my word for it.... you're not the only one going without.

I've been doing this 9 years. Not always well, and sometimes really well, but I know what the hell I'm doing. Back off. I don't have a secret supply, and I'm not giving it to your competitor because I'm trying to make your life miserable. IT DOESN'T EXIST!!! And as the year goes on, the problem will get worse.

It's a lot like the current situation with gas. Yeah, the price sucks and we're pissed, but why complaint to the QT cashier? I'm the cashier in the Ag world, but I have no control over supply, just like the QT-dude can't set the price of gas.

I'm not getting rich with the said venture. I make enough to pay my bills and give Abigail little adventures here and there (ballet lessons, swim lessons, trip to the zoo, and the occassional trip on a plane).

Quess what??? I also work commission, so if I can't ship you a product, I don't get paid. So trust me when I say, I'm working hard to find it for you.

So, when you decide to take it out on my about the drought and the lack of product you need, really, please, yell at God or some other person that you find is a little more directly responsible for the current situation than I am.
Wednesday, July 12, 2006

PostHeaderIcon Time Heals All Wounds and Make the Detail Fuzzy

You wake up one day and realize that when you think about someone it doesn't (quite) hurt anymore.... and you can smile and remember things fondly rather than with a wince of regret.

Other details though have started to slip (was it the Chilean or S African wine he liked better?) , and then you realize that somewhere along the way you've moved on and you're ok when you thought (and swore over and over) you would never be. I can't tell you the moment or even which month things became "ok" but it just hit me over the weekend that they are when someone asked me about him.

Doesn't mean I don't live with regret, but it's now moved into the category of a "learning experience." (if it can be that). You know what they say, "if it doesn't kill you...... "

PostHeaderIcon 29 things I've learned in 29 (or so) years

Just some random-lack-of-sleep-musings: (and I never spell-check)

1. Most things I need today really were things I learned in Kindergarten
2. Life goes on, whether you want it to or not.
3. Keeping in shape physically is important to mental health too.
4. A little prayer never hurt anyone.
5. As much as I like to think I can do everything on my own and don't need help - - without the help of my family and friends, I don't know where I'd be today.
6. Religion can be as much of a curse to someone as it can be a blessing to someone else.
7. Accept your past, without it, you wouldn't be who you are today (or learn from your past and become who you want to be today).
8. Unlearning is sometimes as important as learning.
9. You have to take care of yourself first (not necessarily put yourself first though). You cant fill the cups of your family & friends if youre an empty pitcher (aka running on empty)
10. I can be open-minded without changing my core beliefs.
11. Its better to be pro-active rather than re-active.
12. Sometimes you need to just sit and be (be comfortable with yourself and not being entertained). If you loose your center you will always be off balance.
13. You should make it a point to read often and a wide variety of topics.
14. Having kids is the best life-changing experience that has happened to me.
15. Having kids is not for everyone.
16. While going to college does not make you smarter (explain to me how drinking for years on end, buying term papers, probably having unprotected sex, and being hungover for class makes you smarter than a non-college go-er) it is important in the scheme of things when it comes to getting a job (exceptions apply).
17. Stuff happens. Really. Deal with it and learn from it and move on.
18. Carpe Diem exists for a reason. For what you seize is truly what you get.
19. You should always make time for play time.
20. Your idea of happiness is probably not what will make you happy. Stop putting so much expectations of what will make you happy and just BE happy.
21. If you can't learn to let go sometimes, all that weight will keep you from moving forward.
22. You can not make someone fall in love with you. If you have to try, then you're not being yourself, and why would you want someone who doesn't love you for who you are anyway????
23. Laughter is the best medicine. Being able to laugh at yourself is also important.
24. What I am watching is not nearly as important as how I am watching it. How you watch an event (life?) can shift your very soul and change who you are.
25. Have a hobby. Seriously.
26. Don't keep doing the same thing and expect different results (Einstein was right)
27. Trying things that you normally wouldn't (even if you didn't end up liking it) is always good for your growth.
28. Sometimes life gives you a second (and sometimes more) chance. Don't give up.
29. Life is the ultimate road-trip (and maybe ending up somewhere where you didn't intend, is the best part of the trip).

Add yours if you feel the need :)
Tuesday, July 11, 2006

PostHeaderIcon New Name, Old Style (thanks Gap)

I love my flare jeans.... and I'm not giving them up for the 80s/90s tapered look. I got an email ad today from the Gap introducing their new "silhoutte jeans". Call them what you want, but let's leave the 80s in the 80s. here's a partial to the ad:

Monday, July 10, 2006

PostHeaderIcon I wanna Be a Part-Time Mommy!

Yes. This is directed at a friend of a friend.. and it's on the verge of being catty..... no apologies here.

I'll be the first to admit I'm not the best parent in the world. Once in awhile I wish Abby was at her dads so I can have a moment of peace (4yos can ask a LOT of questions). I have a bad habit of saying damn in front of her (I'm trying to quit). I don't always cook her vegetables for every meal. Sometimes I absolutely dread having one more tea party. There are occasions where I find parenting mundane, boring, and tedious.

Don't get me wrong, it's the best thing in my life and the good moments (so far) have outnumbered the bad, but to say every moment is joyous is a crock.

What I don't get.... parents who think their right to happiness supersedes their obligation to parenting. A few examples:

** Weekend warrior dads (granted, sometimes that isn't their fault).
** Single moms who have various guys stay over randomly when their kids are at home (:::cough, cough :::: Elizabeth)
** Deadbeat dads (putting up with the mom, payments, and a kid just cramp their lifestyle I guess)
** Women who will move to pursue a better job/life/husband/etc and leave their kids in care of the father several states away.

The last example, I am not saying dads are not capable of taking care of their daughters..... not it at all. But to claim that there is no opportunity (job / school/ love life / etc) and to move hours away from your little kid(s) just so you can pursue a new job and a new life I don't get.

Do you think your kids only need you on the occasional weekend? the occasional good night call? only on summer and holiday breaks?

Being a parent is more than making sure they have a roof and food, it's about nurturing and fostering development. I don't see how than can be done long distance. Selfishness is rampant today in all aspects of our society, but especially evident in parenting. Where did you get the idea you have a right to be happy while sacrificing your obligation to parent your child?

Just because I gave up a lot with respect to some personal decisions (** sigh **) and my job, doesn't mean everyone should. It amazes me how flippant of a decision it is for some women (and to an extent, men).

Did you think when you got pregnant that this would be a part-time job?

Tuesday, July 04, 2006

PostHeaderIcon Kids Say the Dardest Things

TMI here, but my embarrassment is your amusement.......

As we are hanging out on our blanket watching fireworks tonight, Abby wants to sit on my lap. I'm wearing capris and she rubs up against my leg and says loud enough for the 5-6 surrounding blankets to hear :

Wow Mom! Your legs are prickly.... you should have shaved today.

Yes friends, I love that little girl.....
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Quotes as I come across them......

“Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, an hour, a day, or a year, but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it last forever.” ~~~Lance Armstrong

"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." ~~~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

"I like running because it's a challenge. If you run hard, there's the pain----and you've got to work your way through the pain. You know, lately it seems all you hear is 'Don't overdo it' and 'Don't push yourself.' Well, I think that's a lot of bull. If you push the human body, it will respond." ~~~Bob Clarke, Philadelphia Flyers general manager, NHL Hall of Famer. (Will-Weber's "Voices From the Midpack" chapter.)

The reason most people never reach their goals is that they don’t define them, or ever seriously consider them as believable or achievable. Winners can tell you where they are going, what they plan to do along the way, and who will be sharing the adventure with them.~~~Denis Watley

Perhaps the most valuable result of all education is the ability to make yourself do the thing you have to do, when it ought to be done, whether you like it or not; it is the first lesson that ought to be learned; and however early a man's training begins, it is probably the last lesson that he learns thoroughly. ~~~Thomas H. Huxley (1825 - 1895)